Tamasa driven people are marked with inertia, indolence, mindless acts, and negative mind set. With their hardened negative tendencies often their inter-personal relationship skills get comprised. Ordinarily, they are self-centric, least concerned about their collective obligations and oblivious to other’s sensibilities and concerns as well. Invariably, their response and reaction to external and internal promptings are based on instinctive judgment - almost animal like – and therefore, often ill-conceived. So, they are not at peace by themselves. Nor they let others remain peaceful. Through their unseemly conduct, they often unsettle familial and societal harmony.
The living world comprises of an assortment of people having varying mental dispensation, each hosting their own mental inconsistencies. The goings in such a complex world can’t be easy. What further complicates the problem are challenges posed by competing interests of others. Yet, the obvious wish would be to enjoy a successful life with ease and comfort. Here comes the role of interpersonal relationship skills that provide ground for relating well to those around, transgressing all individualistic and collective limitations. It is not simply vital to peaceful coexistence within the family and society. It affects our productive aspirations no less. You need to relate well with those associated with your enterprise to elicit their due support, but for which you can’t expect desired success. To sum up, all about life is how well we relate to the self, those around, and the society at large.
Interpersonal relationship skills are primarily guided by three factors – the inherent mental predisposition, environmental influences, and self-acquired virtues. Inherent mental tendencies set the terms of how we relate to the outer world. Added to that is how we are brought up during our early childhood. We also get influenced by prevailing societal trends. Many a times, our parents unmindfully make us too much obsessed about our religious, cultural, economic, and social identity. That makes an inedible mark in our mind and psyche. Consequently, we look at people around within the limits of narrow window frame. Often that breeds in a sense of divide and differentiation. Ostensibly, a lesson in how to negotiate with such a complex world becomes imperative. That calls for acquiring such virtues through fresh educative inputs, as would facilitate relating well to the world around, free from any preconditioning whatsoever.
Another important aspect of our day-to-day life that deserves attention is our emotional frame of mind (the feeling side). Emotion, it needs to be appreciated, is a complex psychological phenomenon that often leads to intense and uncontrolled mental activity characterised by high degree of pleasure or displeasure. It holds the key to our mood, temperament, and personality disposition. Emotion is an affective state of consciousness, which is based on strong instinctive feeling over a situation, real or assumed. Often, during heightened state of emotionality, sense of reasons takes a back seat. Sometimes emotional upsurge leads to intense and uncontrolled mental activity. That unsettles psychological and physiological balance. Our mental and physical health may then come under cloud, often calling for medical intervention.
A young man having suddenly lost his only hope - his father - got so much emotionally disturbed that he lost his mental balance. He began hallucinating all the time, and his thought process became incoherent. He had to undergo long drawn psychiatric treatment to regain his normal frame of mind.
But how would emotion play out is again dependent on the way our mind is inherently predisposed. Our habits and attitudes, virtues and attributes, desire trends, set the term of how we react and respond to internal and external stimuli. Our habit tendencies may stir up intense emotions. An extrovert will express his emotions. The introvert may though conceal it, but can’t escape its impact from within, and which is more harmful.
An oversensitive person may get too much exercised even on trivial issues, stretch them beyond their due, when they temporarily lose sense of reasons, particularly when things do not move on expected lines. They then become emotionally unstable. But here again, intense positive emotions can be motivating. More often intelligence fails to act on the power of emotion. If, however, intelligence is properly handled, it could orient the emotional power towards a meaningful purpose.
Two wings in perfect balance facilitates a bird fly. Similarly, human beings are armed with two tools to conduct themselves in life – intelligence and emotions. We work towards improving our intelligence level, but seldom look at our inherent emotional tendencies. The two in balance will let us have a smooth run of life.